Since dad died, Not has been so wonderful to Rosemary. Staying nights with her, and me when I’m there. It makes us feels so safe to have a man in the house!! And, he finished hauling off the rest of the hoard. Whew! What a beautiful sight that almost-empty-room-now is!! And the porch is completely clear!! Whoop Whoop!!
And, he’s being so wonderful to DD1, and the girls, since all this custody dispute, and harrassment has been happening. We ALL feel safer having him here with us, at night. It’s so strange how their idiot daddy never comes, or sends the police when Not is here. Hmmm, so crazy, right?? Just one big coincidence.
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So, here we are, just waiting with bated breath, wondering what is gonna happen next. Knowing it won’t be anything happy.But 1 thing we DO know- it won’t be the girls leaving this house!!
So, my purpose for talking up Not so much, is to say, I’ve decided to change his name back to DH, which he still is.
Yes, he’s a lying cheater. But for now, all our safety concerns outweigh that.
Welcome back, DH!!
PurpleSlobinRecovery2.0 
I’m so glad to hear y’all are being supported by Not – he has an obvious love for you and the girls. It is a weird coincidence that they never show up when he is there. Talk about stalking!! Oh wait, that is also happening – sorry!
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Yes, despite his sins, he does love us!! And I’m not sinless myself! Isn’t it tho??!! Thanks. We have the injunction hearing Mon. I’m praying to God that it’s granted!
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Dear purple person, you have to get off the relationship seesaw. Yes, he loves your daughter and the kids, and probably, loves you too, but cheaters do not change. Are you ready to live with this? Having him in the house for safety and care he offers is one thing, getting back into marriage is quite another. I am not advising, only suggesting that you search within your own heart and soul.
Love you,
D
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Dear Dolly, I know! I know!! I just can’t seem to make myself do it! I want a family back, but I have to make myself realize DD1, and the girls are my family now. Definitely he is helping us!! Please God DD1 will be awarded 100% custody, then we have legal grounds to arrest their idiot dad when he comes harrassing us!! Then Not can back to his place, and just visit. I know you do, and are just looking oout for me. I appreciate it!! ❤
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It is your choice, dear purple person. I understand how difficult it is to make this choice now when you are running on high anxiety dealing with two stalker situations. But ultimately you will have to make up your mind whether you want him back in your life. If you do, you’ll have to accept him as he is. If you can’t do that, you shouldn’t set yourself up for more heartache.
Love you,
D
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You are right, of course. He is helpful, but if we are not getting back together, I do need to quit relying on him so much. But the line blurs between him helping me, and being with the grandbabies. sigh
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There is nothing wrong with relying on him, as long as it doesn’t mean accepting him back as your husband, if you choose NOT to accept him as such.
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Thanks, I am trying to find the balance. I was all nostalgic, and wanting him back. Then…. looked on his phone, while he was asleep. There were 3 texts, with no names. “Can’t talk, call u later.” Not happy about those. But I was able to delete his FB account, which he had told me he’d already deleted. But there was the app icon. Hmmmm….
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He is not going to change, no matter what he says, dear purple person. If you want him back, you’ll have to live with it. If you can’t live with it, you can’t have him back. The decision is yours, my love.
I am praying for your peace of mind.
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I know, I know… Thank you for the prayers!! ❤
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Just say ‘Amen’ and the prayers become effective.
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Amen!! Making progress…
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